Hard Conversations Without Damage
What you'll learn
- The Verdict Trap
- The Three Conversations Underneath
- Facts vs the Story You Built
- Own Your Contribution
- Open Without an Accusation
- Keep It Safe When It Heats Up
- The Hard-Conversation One-Pager
There is a specific person and a specific thing you need to say, and you keep not saying it. In a study of more than a thousand people, 40% wasted two weeks or more just ruminating on a conversation they were avoiding. The conversation you won't have doesn't vanish — it moves into your head and rents space there. The reason it goes badly, when you finally have it, is almost never the truth itself. It's that you walk in to deliver a verdict: to prove you're right and make the other person change. This course teaches the shift from delivering a message to running a two-way conversation you could both learn from — said honestly, while keeping the other person safe enough to stay in it. Across seven short lessons, traced through one real conversation, you'll separate what happened from the story you built on it, own your part, open without an accusation, and keep things steady when emotion spikes. You'll leave with the Hard-Conversation One-Pager: a single prep sheet you fill out before any charged conversation, so you walk in clear instead of armored.
You already know how the talk will go badly, so you keep postponing it. This course gives you a way through it that protects the relationship instead of detonating it.
Most hard conversations stall because we walk in carrying a verdict and treat our story as fact. The other person feels accused, defends themselves, and the real issue never gets named. The Harvard Negotiation Project mapped why this happens: under every difficult exchange sit three conversations at once, about what happened, about feelings, and about identity. Miss them and you argue past each other for an hour.
This course teaches the method from "Difficult Conversations" by Stone, Patton, and Heen, the field guide that came out of that work. You separate the facts from the story you built around them, own your share of the mess before assigning blame, and open without an accusation so the other person stays in the room. When it heats up, you have concrete moves to keep it safe. You finish with a one-pager you fill in before any real conversation, so the skill survives past the lesson.
Managers: need to give hard feedback or address performance without the other person shutting down.
Founders and partners: have a co-founder, investor, or vendor issue that has been festering because no one will start it.
Anyone conflict-averse: avoids tension at work and at home, and wants a repeatable way to raise the thing that matters.
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